“‘It is hard to be a woman. You must think like a man, act like a lady, look like a young girl, and work like a horse.’
-a sign that hangs in my house”
-“What Happened” by Hillary Clinton
I came across this quote that, according to her recent book, Hillary Clinton has hanging in her home and I immediately related to its words. I cannot tell you how many times I have received comments about my hair, or have been asked why I cut it in the first place. They ask (mainly men), “don’t you miss your long, girly hair?” I was even compared to looking like an “emo” boy. When I reply with a “because I felt like it”, they just don’t seem to get it.
To be taken seriously, especially in a profession that is 85% (or more) male, you have to go above and beyond to “prove” yourself. If you express any distinct aspect of your feminine personality, there is bound to be someone that has an issue with it. Yet, if you carry yourself in a more masculine manner, like give direct orders, or even cut your hair off (oh my), there is bound to be someone that has an issue with that, too. Either way, people assume derogatory characteristics about you. If you’re feminine, you are too timid and cannot handle the responsibilities of being an Army officer. Or maybe they assume that you’re sleeping around because you’re feminine and have male friends (god forbid). If you are hard on people or demand something that needs to be completed, you’re called a bitch. Or you’re on your period.
I have so much respect for women like Hillary Clinton, who have put themselves out there in an attempt to make the United States and the world a better place for everyone, just to have that world tear them apart. Just know (to all of those badass women out there), that if all of your efforts fail, you have built a generation of women that are strong and fearless, and we will prevail.